YOUR LIFE ON AUTO-PILOT? TIME TO KNOW THE REAL INNER YOU!!

YOUR LIFE ON AUTO-PILOT? TIME TO KNOW THE REAL INNER YOU!!

I have on numerous occasions via my blogs, IG shares and my Live cable show on WinWinwomen.com with co-host Charlie Lowe shared (hopefully not ad nauseum) stories on the challenges we endure in life that can always be used as a learning and not a punishment.  And I know this to be sure that if we saddle with the latter we will find ourselves in that negative place I call ‘Victim-ville’ which becomes more painfully over-crowded on a daily basis.

However, that being said misery does love company and because we are familiar and even comfortable with taking the lower road, and then anxiously pontificating to anyone who will listen about the dreads of our life, are we not living in a place of illusion where we react out of  habit? Is it really true that we will feel better about getting it off of our chest and then when we do it’s over?  

If given the right tools to assess how we really and truly feel inside we may be able to armor ourselves against this behavior that keeps us  small and ordinary; to avert the action that when we walk away after regurgitating negativity to be of the understanding that this way of doing our life is certainly not serving us to the betterment on any level,  and possibly feeling even worse because the exchange may have been a mutual admiration society filled with even more negativity.

Remember we have 70,000 thoughts a day, a scientific fact, so stop and think for a moment what that looks like when you start your day off and continue the diatribe for another 24 hours.  

It’s time to wake up and change what only YOU can change.

Self help books are great for taking a first step in acquiring techniques to help shift one’s viewpoint in order to learn a new way of thinking and feeling.  So, if you like to read and have an inkling or nudge to find out more about you I suggest you start here and possibly save the novels for later in the day. 

Now I know that reading one of the many 18.6 million and counting self-care books can get a bit redundant so if you’re new to this genre I will give you a short-cut to start you off. Of course it will require a little  trust and letting go…a silencing of the mind so to speak, to allow what shows up in answer to your questions however it’s pretty cool to see what comes forward

Here's an example of what I mean.

Yesterday when I picked up The Book of Joy by the Dalai Lama and Desmond Tutu after being gifted by a friend, I asked for guidance as to what I could share for today’s blog subject. Coming from two most influential and practiced spiritual leaders I was confident that whenever I stopped flipping the pages that I would have the ideal answer.

So, paraphrasing for the attention span of todays’ mind it said, “When touched with a feeling of pain, the uninstructed ordinary person sorrows, grieves and laments, beats their breast, becomes distraught.  Now they are engaged in feeling two pains both physically and mentally; liken this if they were to shoot a person with an arrow and right afterwards shoot them with another one. By shifting ones perspective to a broader more compassionate and responsible one we can avoid the suffering of the second arrow.” 

The Dali Lama goes on to talk about when he lost his country and became a refugee and how using a more positive conscious thought process that same experience gave him new opportunities to see more things; more opportunities to meet different people, different spiritual practitioners, shift, grow and relish the outcome which brought more joy. 

From one angle you can say how horrible that experience was and then looking from a wider stance it becomes more of an opportunity to learn about oneself and gives one a new vantage point of experiencing life full of acceptance, growth and appreciation.

Just like looking at the landscape from the ground then going up in an airplane and looking down at what is your first gaze you see a whole different view.  This applies to how you look at a challenge/discomfort and if you only use one perspective you are doing the same thing repeatedly with the same results.

Open to stretching your mind both from what you see and feel by allowing yourself the freedom to imagining something better…find out more about who you are at that moment and practice diverting from old to new behaviors. 

The ability to change, redesign, branch out and create a more enhanced version or who we have been in all of us…why not start now exploring now? 

To your brilliance unfolding with joy,

P.S.  Tune in today, Friday December 16th at 11 am PST for a chat with me and my cohost, Charlie Lowe when we have conversation about TALK IS CHEAP.  TIME TO TAKE ACTION IS NOW!

Link to show:

https://winwinwomen.tv/show/imagine-something-better