It's that time again, part 4
IT’S THAT TIME AGAIN PART FOUR! THE END OF A NEW BEGINNING
A friend of mine was just diagnosed with breast cancer. Shuffling her breast around to different doctors and going through numerous procedures while going about living life as usual (with a bit of trepidation) she has already found a way to work with the “what ifs;” you know those loose canons that take every opportunity to run with wild abandon in one’s mind when you least need them. She told me that the time we spent in a coaching/client relationship was helping her to reframe their excess noise as well as filling the quiet time with more self-nurturing.
It may seem contrived that this kind of scenario would have you leaning in super intently to discover what will help with this new challenge in life/about life however without some new order it can also allow for much disarray going forward if you don’t dig deep within oneself to find your answers/solutions/space/life.
I found that one of the most difficult parts of this journey is not knowing and listening to other peoples’ stories about their personal experience or one that they heard about. However, once you have arrived at this juncture when you are presented with all the facts and have softened out the noise from others, it becomes like learning to walk a new path, one strategically foot after another, tentative but with super strong awareness to your commitment to heal.
Part 4
“Before I left the hospital for the last treatment, the doctors asked me how I had managed to keep a positive attitude and show up daily with an uplifting energy both for myself and then for other patients, several of whom had shared that they had benefited from our chats together. And the answer was simply that I had committed to guiding myself through this process with a mindset full and committed to learning the art of self-nurturing.
I continued to go to work and go about my life, sometimes in a daze, but I had learned to pay close attention to how I was feeling and to honor those feelings at that very moment. Sometimes I would leave work early and go for a walk, then come home and nap whereas before I was never a napper. I started to get manicures and pedicures vs giving them to myself and I reveled in the opportunity to escape reality and read mindless magazines and books. Even facials and massages became a “must do” on my nurturing list. I worked with a nutritionist who opened me up to a new adventure in healthy eating and taking supplements on a regular basis. I was finally paying attention to the little indulgences which though simple and an everyday occurrence for many had been rarely considered for me in the past.
I kept up with my meditation and looking back I know that this process had been and was my premier mainstay in life that kept all the pieces of my life in working order. Taking in deep breaths and set a positive affirmation for the way I wanted my day to unfold was key in starting my day along with boundless creativity in designing affirmations of everything happy-happy, healthy-healthy, joyful (well, you got the rest).
This cancer experience taught me that our lives are filled with choices and opportunities whether we choose to acknowledge and take personal responsibility or not. As I continually asked myself how I wanted to live my life going forward my answer was a resounding call for abundance in joy, peace of mind and love. I was and am very clear that there is a gift in every challenge, and if I am to be fully present in this life, I must use all the wisdom that has been afforded to me from the experiences I faced even if they didn’t initially appear like a lovely walk in the park.
I recognized that if I continued to disregard my well-being by continuing the habits that were likely contributors to the onset of my cancer, (like being in judgment, fear, jealousy, envy and insecurity) then I would not be able to accomplish this goal of being of service to myself and then to the world. If I wanted to continue to be stressed and to see my body react in a negative ways, then I would always stay in a place of being small and disempowered. At the end of the day, I had to ask myself just how did the way I had been living my life in the past serve me?
Since all of this happened, I have moved forward, placing myself at the top of my list and to this day I have never looked back with regret. I have learned to take responsibility for my fears, allow them to be my teachers and to comfort myself while in the process of going into uneasiness. I now know I will eventually always come out on top with more clarity and even an Ah-ha or two. Choosing me first was new and though I had to take pause now and again I get what it means to love oneself first.”
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