ARE YOU CLEAR ABOUT WHAT HAPPENED?
ARE YOU CLEAR ABOUT WHAT HAPPENED?
Our brain uses perception to understand information by using memories. So, if we find ourselves angry or annoyed by another’s behavior it’s not the other person’s imperfection; it’s not even your fault if you have possibly cast aspersions on them. However, it isn’t arbitrary and meant to sweep under the bed. The work comes down to recognizing our own feelings that sense a ‘charge’ and working with them from the inside out.
What feelings come up because of that perception and how to examine those feelings is where the work is. Feelings of disconnect, insecurity, inability to process the truth for oneself, a feeling of aloneness, isolation, feeling less-than are all mindsets that are alive and ready to be ignited at the precise moment.
Simply put the interpretation your brain makes based on what you see, hear, smell, feel, taste and how that correlates to previous memories is the only place to go to heal old wounds that have surfaced due to a projection.
One can call this emotional invalidation that can show up as blaming, name-calling, and problem-solving before understanding the other person’s experience so be very careful not to undermine another without first taking a look inside of your own Self.
This can be done by asking some very simple questions such as “What is it that I am feeling?” because feeling and then owning the sensation puts it front and center and makes it easier to focus on the experience at hand.
Emotional pain caused by perception comes up for us to validate, first, then it is our unique responsibility to take the proper steps in moving this emotion through us instead of allowing it to stay and fester and resurface at another time.
Four steps to use when you are up against yourself:
· Observe the perception and emotion that has driven this feeling forward.
· Allow the emotion to be seen and felt. It cannot physically hurt you so nothing to fear here.
· Explore this emotion…where did it come from; when did you first feel it…track it back as this is not a new feeling; what is it asking of me, etc.
· Support your feelings and honor the time you have given to hopefully free the impact of this emotion for the last time because one is unable to process the other person’s emotions therefore the responsibility for healing is up to you.
As my teachers used to put this scenario in plain English…” How one perceives the issue IS the issue.”
To your brilliance unfolding,
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