Where is the love?
When things change, it is an opportunity to understand the amount of control we have over them. Like in our recent election, there is nothing more we can do now to be in honor of our mind/body/soul but to accept the change and hopefully morph into the acknowledgment of what is possible going forward. An example of using this as a growth spurt would be defining what new chapters to your book of life await for you to write.
A lot of what is our God-given birthright, i.e. love and joy, kindness, gratefulness, unity, honesty, relevance, cohesiveness, has been buried as we have run with the pack over the past few years. And many of us are still running because of the lack of certainty which is what us humans always fear.
But there is hope! Always and forever available to us is the art of loving both ourselves and what IS. Where has this simple yet complex construct been hiding through all this recent upheaval and why have people still not understood that it is truly missing from our life in all of its beautiful potential and stately glory?
Yes, like in the song, “Where is the love?”
What have we learned over the past 9 months since the beginning of our lock-downs? What have we learned about who we are, what works and doesn’t work any longer, how is holding anger, projection, meanness and pain serving our higher Self? And here’s a biggy, what is your honest to goodness authentic story about what is really and truly and undeniably important about being alive?
When we first went “under” I was a bit fear based when it came to conceptualizing what could possibly happen to us. And although I hadn’t the slightest idea what the days ahead were going to look like I knew in my heart that this was an opportunity to go “inward,” do some deeper healing and learn what part in all of this ‘loving myself’ was about.
I also focused on prayer in honor of my existence and that of all people in the world; a prayer based on the impression of human evolution being able to exceed the growth in technology (and not the other way around as it is right now) so that we would all become more conscious and responsible human beings and not have the internet supersede our way of life.
The tag line for this 2020 has been “We are all in this together” however I have felt that catch phrase needed more explanation; it wasn’t and still hasn’t been broken down to help people understand it’s richer meaning. And because of this it is still dangling out there in the ether-net just waiting for people to catch on by themselves.
All of this and then the fear that accompanies us in this transition. Yikes! Neuroscience alone says that fear registers as uncertainty in the brain and causes missteps in our evolution...we stop our ability to think clearly and autonomously.
Of course, all fear is not bad as it serves as a kind of protection and activates the fight and flight response. Heaven forbid our ancestors who foraged for food with a club and instinct didn’t use fear to help feed their family when the saber tooth tiger crossed his path.
But the kind of fear we are experiencing today cannot coexist with love and only love can heal our hearts.
Each and every person on this planet comes from a place of loving. It is who we are, how we radiate and at what frequency we vibrate this blessed, inherent gift. Love is powerful, empowering, fundamentally unique and necessary.
As I mentioned, it is virtually impossible to be in the loving and be in fear at the same time. Fear doesn’t reside in love so you may want to take the following questions and experience a sense what your body feeds back to you:
Try staying in the loving and at the same time saying and thinking unkind things about people. Try staying in the loving while thinking negatively. Try staying in the loving when you are insisting that meanness is necessary to get your point across. Try staying in the loving and continue judging while trying to stay out of anxiety. Try staying in the loving and keep pretending that you are aligned with your higher self.
On many a occasion what I hear from many people is that they are tired of all the excess noise that is bombarding their psyche from around the world…the incongruity, separation and projection/judgement and lack of loving and acceptance. And what we really need to be tired of is not loving ourselves enough.
So the only way the noise will soften will be when we surrender to the loving of who we are because if we choose otherwise we will, by default, always be fearful.
We are not invincible but together with the concept of LOVE we can gather steam and heal but to accomplish this we must go deeper into our hearts to realize, for possibly the first time, that we are not mutually exclusive but inclusive.
As I coach my clients from the inside out, my intention is to help them to comprehend that there is nothing to fear because our core values will not change with change; that the foundation of what is important in your life, i.e. family, friends, values, being of service… will always be an anchor going forward.
You are more in control than you think you are and some of the things you can think about going forward (aside from what has already been discussed) are:
· Remember the cliché…”We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.” - Albert Einstein
· We fear change because we can’t see the future and we end up feeling that at first dawn we will lose everything so that we hang on to the past. What if this wasn’t true?
· Surrender. Let go of the imagined stories we have chosen to take on that really don’t speak for and through you.
· Reflection. Think back at challenging times in your life where you went kicking and screaming only to see now how that helped where and who you are today.
· Love what is. It’s really ours to use in the best way to benefit our life and everyone around us.
· Choose you, first. Fill yourself up with your best and let the overflow go to others. NEVER deplete your energy dealing with the wrath of emotional vampires.
Lastly, what do you want your legacy to be? Please don’t give thought to the fact that we don’t care if we don’t leave a meaningful imprint when we depart this world. Taking this into account, will you continue trying to hang on to the past where you have no control or will you learn to lead from your loving and go forward? Are you willing to join the human race in healing this fractured society we have all had a part of creating and finally, admit that yes, “I get it. We are all in this together.”
Sending you my loving,
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